I really do wonder

When I put my feelings after yours.
We argue.

When I put my feelings before yours.
Everything will be fine.
Or least they SEEM fine.
Because my feelings still remain in me.
It's still lingering in my mind.
It's always bugging my brain and ultimately messes up my emotions.

When I can't could it any much longer,
I put my feelings out after yours.
We argue.

And the cycle continues.

Who is there to blame.
Why does this happen in the first place if we are truly interested and willing to accept each other's feelings and thoughts.
Why can't we accept the differences in our views.
Is it a must to have our beliefs aligned?
Why does one side has to be right or wrong?

Is it really not possible to have 2 existing different views and to accept or respect one's thought?